I will be writing from a typical victim’s perspective in this posting.
One of the things that really drives me crazy about my suicidal friend/child/spouse is that he seems capable of creating the conditions that support his moods. He often complains that he is all alone in the world. Then he pushes all of his friends away and alienates his family. After a while, he really is all alone because he has isolated himself on his own little island. “I am a Rock. I am an I-i-i-island.” – PS & AG
Another example. He puts on music to match his mood. So, when he is sad, he puts on sad music–”Because We’ve Ended as Lovers,” “You Don’t Know Me,” “Soul Suckers,” etc.–which makes him feel what? Can you guess? Yes, sad!
Why not put on some James Brown or Beastie Boys. You can’t possibly feel down with “Pappa’s Gotta Brand New Bag” groovin’ in the background. There is a good reason why they don’t play “Bloody Mary” at dance clubs and parties: they don’t want everyone thinking about, that’s right, suicide!
Stop working against yourself. Let us in. I know we don’t really “get it,” but we do care and we want you to be in our lives for years to come.
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cherished79 // 25 July 2007 at 6:40 pm
I really like the way you write.
Don’t know if you had a chance to check out my ’suicide’ post: “Suicide: The Taboo Word” on my blog.
http://cherished79.wordpress.com/2007/07/05/suicide-the-taboo-word/
Just a day in the life of one of my darker moments way back when.
Have a great day.
Deb
Suicidal No More // 26 July 2007 at 6:34 pm
I finally had a chance to read Cherished79’s article “Suicide: the taboo word” and I encourage you all to read it. I left some of my own thoughts there regarding some of the issues brought out in her account. I will repeat them here only because I think those issues are important enough to repeat to another audience (such as I have anyway).